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Ditch the conflict and crack that conversation with the ultimate Deal-Maker
Do you feel like you have no choice but to have a row or completely avoid a subject with your family, friends or work colleagues? Get expert coaching on “deal-making” for people-pleasers who want to meet their needs as well as everyone else’s.
No-one likes an argument. We want everyone to get along, but sometimes it feels like there are only two options – bringing things up and having a fight or tiptoeing around, avoiding the issue, giving in, giving up or drifting away. You’re thinking:
“I can’t bring it up, I’m worried they’ll get upset.”
“Things don’t come out the way I want them to. I can’t get my point across.”
“We don’t understand each other; we rub each other up the wrong way.”
“I can’t balance my needs and theirs – I don’t want to let anyone down or sell myself short.”
“I want to discuss the wedding plans with my Mum but I’m worried what will happen if I do.”
“Chores are small things really but somehow, there just doesn’t seem to be a good time, and I don’t know how to say it without getting cross or it sounding like I am being unreasonable.”
“Last time we met I tried to mention it, but then she said, “What do you mean?” I felt like I was being put on the spot. I needed time to go away and think about it and work out what to say.”
With work colleagues:
“I need to talk to my boss about my ridiculous workload, but if I say anything it’ll come out wrong.”
You’re feeling fed up, frustrated and angry. You dread what’s ahead or regret what’s gone before.
You’ll do anything to avoid the issue – you splurge on extravagant apology presents, compensate with posh dinners where you hope you talk things through, eat lots of chocolate, or spend extra hours in the office slogging away before escaping on an expensive holiday……
Eventually, it always comes back to fight or flight when other tactics don’t work.
There’s a third, quicker way you can pay a fairer price for the happiness of everyone involved:
You can learn to negotiate and have good conversations at the right time.
I help people-pleasers resolve conflict without an argument so everyone wins
I am offering this out to see what the world needs and test what I can deliver!
Each session will be a £1, with an optional donation for what you think the session was worth. If this floats your boat, text me on 07920446339, via email:
mailto:firstname.lastname@example.org@gmail.com and/or book in direct on
[…. now I’m not saying you’re shy or can’t talk. You probably have really good relationships with these people. This is about dealing with those tender bits, oiling the wheels of a good relationship and getting you to the space where all your relationships run smoothly without the need to feel like you are compromising or clashing.]
Set yourself free from the shackles of feeling awkward. Quickly learn to resolve a minor issue early on – share the feelings you need others to understand and help them do the same. Find that middle ground where no-one feels like they are losing and you reach an outcome that everyone is happy with. No more fight or flight - meet in the middle and succeed in life, love, and work
With years of experience negotiating sticky situations in the world of international business, I’m now working outside the boardroom where families take sides, friends misjudge and lovers don’t listen. Because that’s where the magic happens in life and the best deals are struck. Negotiation isn’t a “planned meeting” that happens in an air-conditioned room with power chairs and pointy fingers. It’s a good conversation – with honesty and well-chosen words.
What others have said….
“Louise is first and foremost a great listener but it is what she manages to do with all that she has heard that amazes me…. it’s like she just 'gets you.'
I have a tendency to in my words 'waffle on' but amongst this Louise manages to pull out some gems that I would never have thought were there and polish them up! I imagine it’s like having parts of my brain pulled out and gently replaced in a way to make me more, well, Lynn shaped!
Louise has such a warmth with her approach to working with you it is as if you have known her all your life. I guarantee that you will come away feeling lighter and confident to step forward in your current world.”
Lynn, London, UK
“Not only does Louise speak from the heart, she was a master at helping understand where mine was at. Through her remarkable listening skills, she was able to uncover more than what appeared at the surface and got to the core of my issue. This opened up a new understanding for me and created an immediate sense of calm. I am so thankful and highly recommend Louise's amazing abilities to get you to the other side.”
Jeanne Patti, Chicago, USA
3-month “Conversation Cracker” programme
This is for you if:
You’re busting at the seams but you just don’t know how to get yourself across.
You fear the impact of what you want to talk about – it feels a bit risky and arguments likely.
You wish you could just share how you are feeling – but somehow this never happens.
This hasn’t been talked about in the past or some conversations have happened already that haven’t reached a fair outcome or addressed everything for you.
This is not for you if:
The topic is a complete deal-breaker and high on the severity scale, with high stakes and life-changing implications.
There are underlying relationship or behavioural issues.
There are frequent and very difficult arguments on a wide variety of subjects.
What We’ll Do: Action packed and practical!
Getting you: A safe and relaxed space for you to let rip on things that really matter to you and how you would deal with them if there were no barriers. Exploring how not having these conversations, or having arguments, is affecting you in your life, relationships or work.
Getting them: Exploring what you know about the other people involved, and what their perspective might be.
Getting there: Exploring the different solutions and consequences for you and for them in order to reach the right resolution. We’ll identify those barriers and fears that hold you back.
Learn: Practical tools to help you to be yourself in conversations, diffuse conflict and get to the heart of what’s really going on for everyone involved when you do talk.
Support: I’ll give you plenty of boost and help you build your confidence to the max, giving you the courage to start having that conversation.
Practice: Combine your understanding and learning to be true to you in specific situations or relationships and prepare for having a conversation that meets everyone’s needs.
What you get: all the energy you need!
30-minute mini taster session to see if I float your boat before we start.
20-minute “What’s going on” Questionnaire* to jump start your journey and get me up to speed so I can start helping you straight away in the sessions we have together.
6 x 60-minute private coaching sessions tailored to suit you with me as your very own conversation champion! Via Skype or phone our 121 sessions will work in a way that best suits you to reach your goals. With no commute, we’ll just cut to the chase!
6 x post session email summaries so you can focus on moving forwards – I’ll record actions and learnings so you can focus on moving forwards with what we discuss.
2 x phone check-ins to track your progress after sessions 2 and 4, keep you motivated and sending you on your way with a fanfare of friendly encouragement.
Email support throughout the programme to check-in with your conversation champ.
Let’s get to it! Book your place now and I’ll get us started!
I have a sensitive situation right now I need to resolve! Sticky Situation SOS
Fix it in 48 hours
Planning and Practice: Support and confidence to get you in the right frame of mind to act when the time calls for it.
Options: How you can get the right outcome for everyone involved?
Understand: What’s holding you back?
Sticky Situation SOS! Short targeted session to hit that quick-release button – within 48 hours of booking
Courage, easy tools and techniques to get to the heart of the issue and resolve it!
This is for you if….
There’s one particular situation where you don’t feel like things are working between you and the other person involved.
There’s a particular conversation that you’ve been avoiding, or that you really need to have ASAP.
You know what you want to say or how you want to be – but you just need some encouragement to get there, or some tools and techniques to make it come to life.
You need some practical tools and tips to apply to communicating and solving a specific sticky problem with a specific person.
This is not for you if….
There are lots of situations and examples where this has come up and not been resolved.
You are not sure what you want the outcome to be.
Your fears are going to need some serious gloves-on boxing matches to beat.
There are some pretty big habits, expectations and challenges involved.
What the SOS includes:
Extended 90-minute session via phone / skype – with extended time to work on the problem and create a fitting solution so you can go away and tackle it.
Follow-up summary – so you have an aid memoir to the conversation you’re about to have – covering the key insights and reminders of your actions and words to use.
What our session will cover:
Establishing the benefits, risks and challenges of having the conversation.
Explore how you might do this and what you might say to get the desired outcome.
Encouragement and practice in a safe space with me to tee you up ready to go!
Outcome: You’ll leave our session fired up and ready to go without fear of the implications, rejection or risk of failure that’s holding you back right now from achieving your goals.
Use your personality to resolve conflict
To accompany this experiment, I am also trialling super special personality focussed versions of the Sticky Situation SOS – working with personality expert Jeanne Patti to bring you specialist insight into your own core personality and the personality of the person involved so you can really understand what’s going on for both of you at a fundamental level and learn about your differences and how you each see the world differently, prioritise different things and talk in different terms.
..…PTO for more details if you want talk.
Sticky Situation SOS! Short targeted sess